DALTON'S MOM

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

OOPS I FORGOT TO POST HALLOWEEN PICS

This is the first year Dalton has actually went trick or treating. He is pictured here with our family friend, Brett, Dalton calls him Uncle Brett. Brett is Native American Indian. So we had a cowboy and an Indian for Halloween. No wars were fought but treats were shared! lol Mom and I made Dalton's vest and chaps. The vest turned out ok but the chaps..not so good! They were off before the trick or treating was done. (he only went to about 12 houses-more than enough candy!)

MY EMOTIONAL MOMENT

Of course I have an emotional moment on this day every year, but my emotions run even deeper. You see, we tried to get pregnant for 13 years! In those thirteen years we had to come to terms with and deal with infertility issues. No one wants to think about that. It is suppose to happen naturally, right? How can that happen to us? What did we do wrong? Those are some of the emotions you have to go through and come to terms with when dealing with infertility issues. And then there is the mighty big one...there are no guarantees that it will work or that you will ever be able to get pregnant. Hearing those words shatters that minuscule of a chance that you thought you might have. There are lots of test they put you and your spouse through. Medications that send your hormones to outer space and procedures that sometimes become so painful that you start wandering if you will be able make it through them. I spent many a times laying on the table with tears streaming down my face and squeezing Denny's hand to the point that he thought I would cut off his circulation or break some bones. And then the emotional heart break of the procedure not working.
March 1st 2002 we went in for yet another procedure. You then wait 2 weeks and take a pregnancy test. When that two weeks came up I got up early to do my test and it showed negative again. I threw it in the trash and went back to bed. It was probably 4am. Denny later woke me up, shaking me, "why did you do the test with out me and why didn't you wake me?" "I had to pee and it was negative, why wake you?" He said no I see a faint line. I was not even slightly aroused by this. It had been in the trash can for 3 hours so it could do all sorts of crazy stuff. He went to work and so did I. I came home from work and he was waiting for me with 2 more test for me to take. I can tell you I was very depressed all day but I decided to humor him anyway so he would leave me alone. Well, there was that faint little line again. WOW were we really pregnant? To make a long story short I took the other pregnancy test the next morning and theb we got one more and I took it on Sunday morning. They all had that faint line. I was indeed pregnant. As I sit here and write this I can still remember the extreme rush of joy I had. Nothing can compare to it.
I loved being pregnant! It didn't matter how big I got-and I got really BIG! Dalton was delivered via c-section 2 1/2 weeks early, he was breech, huge and I couldn't hardly breathe anymore. I was so big it had been weeks since I could drive a car. So on November 5th 2002 at 7:17 am Dalton Michael was born 10lbs. 2 oz. and 22 inches long. He got lots of attention that day. We were the only ones in the maternity ward until later that afternoon then there was a rush of babies being born-all girls! Being such a large baby he was the talk of the hospital. (small town hospital anyway) My Dr. said if I had gone to term I would have probably set some sort of hospital record. I thanked him for NOT letting me set a hospital record. lol
And now last but not least.....if you know anyone who is or might be struggling with infertility problems the best thing you can do for them is give them your heart and your prayers. A caring, loving heart says mountains of words-even when words are not spoken. Most people do not like to talk about their infertility problems. And most importantly-PRAY! Pray for a successful pregnancy, pray for their good health, pray for their marriage (it's hard on a marriage) pray for patience and guidance and peace.
We have been through many fertility procedures since Dalton was born but none of them have worked. We finally had to quit when we found out that I had a kidney quit working.(and we are in our 40's and too old now) I have had severe kidney issues since having Dalton. They all started with stones. Lots and lots of stones!
We consider Dalton our miracle child and he is the most wonderful blessing ever here on earth!

HAPPY 6TH BIRTHDAY DALTON!!!

These pics were taken before school this morning. He has new cowboy boots on and boy is he proud. Poor kid needs a hair cut.

As of 7:17 am Dalton is 6 years old!! Happy Birthday my little man! It is mind boggling how fast time flys. I am sure all you moms out there understand when I say I can remember moment by moment of the day that precious baby came into this world. Oh yea you know I have the water works going!!!

DALTON'S BIRTHDAY PARTY

mmmm roasting marshmallows!

Parker getting her hula hoop grove on! go Parker, go Parker, go Parker go!

Josh, Ethan, Christy and Kaylee getting ready to have their cake too.

Billy and Tracy helping their kids Jayden and Kaitlyn with their cake.

Samantha, Kate, Parker, Ellen, Emalee, Drake and Sidney and Dalton's meme wait patiently while the cake is being passed out.

Kiley refuels on cake and ice cream with her mom, Lisa.

Ethan on the move.

The girls bonded and had a screaming good time!

We had a hay ride.

They played basketball.

On Saturday we gave Dalton a birthday party and invited his whole class and their families. We roasted hot dogs and marshmallows in the fire pit and had a hay ride through the neighborhood. The kids played basketball, played on the play set and drew pictures with sidewalk chalk on our driveway. They seemed to be having such a good time that I forgot all about the games that I had planned. It was great fellowship with the kids and their families.
We decided to have this kind of party because 1. we are new here and do not know anyone and wanted a chance to meet the parents of the children Dalton will be calling friends over the next 13+ years, 2. Dalton is shy/reserved (outside of our home) and we are trying to help him work his way out of it and become more social.
We asked that the kids not bring a present because first and foremost Dalton is very spoiled-I mean blessed. He is not only an only child but an only grandchild, you see where I am going with this. Second I would rather someone take the time and money and help a child or family in need, third -if all nineteen of his class mates were to come and bring a present - oh my gosh that is just crazy!! And last but not least, it would have been very embarrassing when Dalton would have refused to open his presents in front of everyone and he would have looked ungrateful. We go through this at Christmas too when he is opening presents on Christmas morning when it is just us. If we didn't help him he would still be opening them New Years Day! lol
We appreciate those that were able to make it to Dalton's party and we hope those that couldn't make it this year can make it next year. I am thinking of making it a yearly thing.
My camera was on the blink but some of my friends took pics and as soon as I have them I will add to my post.